A Child has Died
Recently a child my kids went to school with accidentally died. This is the seventh child I either knew well, or knew the parents well, who has died. Now I have to prepare myself for what has often become the sequel – the dissolving of a marriage.
Of the children I have known who have died accidentally, only one set of parents have been able to keep their marriage together. I have heard that experts say divorce is almost a certainty.
The emotions of that time are incomprehensible to me. I would need all the support that I could get. But it seems that blame and lack of support is what actually comes.
The blame that each parent places on the other sabotages the relationship. “You should have …” or “Why did you …” are too common in these situations. They suffer the loss of their child; and while they are still suffering, blame and the resulting loss of the support of their mate makes it hurt even more.
Why do so many people need to make others hurt? Does it really make them feel better? Kids seem very good at this. The bullies and the kids who make fun of the slightest mistake another child makes. Why don’t more people grow-up and out of that style? Is it lack of self-esteeem?
I know bosses who have to make the people below them hurt and feel stupid. How much good would come if they supported and complimented their employees and encouraged them to be creative and to be leaders rather than demean and pass blame for things down to them?
What do you think? Fill-up the comments section with your thoughts on this.
Filed under: Grief, Marriage, Self-Centered, Self-esteem, relationships, self-confidence on July 27th, 2007
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