Trust is the Hardest to Gain and the Easiest to Lose
Why does an affair damage a relationship more than anything else. It’s not the sex. It’s the broken trust. And why is that so damaging? There are lots of other ways that we mistreat our relationships. Lack of respect. Lack of fiscal responsibility. Lack of support regarding raising the kids.
Trust is the hardest thing for someone to give because it makes them the most vulnerable. If I trust you, you can hurt me. But, we need to trust someone. It’s an inherent to a good life. Finding that confidante, the very, very special person we TRUST. We’ve tried it a few times on a limited basis but we’ve always ended-up hurt.
So we finally go all-in. And then they betray us. “Never Again!” we swear. And from that day forward, we won’t trust. And our lives will be the lesser for it. But at least our lives won’t be hurting.
So how do we make sure we don’t break the trust that a close relationship has?
The Truth shall set you Free. Total, brutal, painful, HONESTY. And you thought being trusting was hard! Ha …. being totally honest is far harder. And it goes right along with being true to oneself.
How often do you think about what someone else WANTS you to say before you say it? How often is what you end-up saying what you think they want to hear … but is not what you really want to say? How happy does that make your life?
Filed under: Marriage, Sex, True to Yourself, Trust, relationships on July 24th, 2007
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